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Do you or someone you love struggle with sex
addiction?
1. WHAT IS SEX ADDICTION?
Sex addiction is a way some people medicate their feelings and/or cope
with their stresses to the degree that their sexual behavior becomes their
major coping mechanism for stresses in their life. The individual often
can,t stop this sexual behavior for any great length of time by
themselves. The sex addict spends a lot of time in the pursuit of his or
her sexual behavior/fantasy or they may have a binge of sexual behaviors.
2. WHY DO PEOPLE BECOME SEXUALLY ADDICTED?
This is different for every sex addict but generally speaking there are
biological, psychological, and spiritual reasons. The following is a short
explanation of each reason why someone can become a sex addict. The
biological addict is someone who has conditioned their body to receive
endorphins and enkephlines (brain chemicals) primarily through reinforcing
a fantasy state with the ejaculation that provides these chemicals to
their brain. Psychologically, the need to medicate or escape physical,
emotional or sexual abuse can demand a substance, the early addict finds
the sex medicine usually before alcohol or drugs. Spiritually, a person is
filling up the God hole in them with their sexual addiction. The addiction
is their spirituality, it comforts them, celebrates them and is always
available and present. Then there is the sex addict who can be two or even
three of the above reasons. This is why a specialist in sex addiction is
the best route for recovery with sex addiction.
3. WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX ADDICTION AND A
HIGH SEX DRIVE?
A person with a high sex drive is satisfied with sex. It's not about a fix
for something; when their partner says "NO" it doesn't make them
go off the handle thinking their partner is totally rejecting them and
have to leave the house or act out in some other way. If you or someone
you love can relate to this the chances are there may be an addiction
issue.
4. WHAT ROLE DOES PORNOGRAPHY PLAY IN SEX ADDICTION?
Pornography for many sex addicts combined with regular masturbation is the
cornerstone for most sex addicts. Many sex addicts have great difficulty
getting sober from this combination of behavior. The pornography with
fantasy creates an unreal world that the sex addict visits throughout
their adolescence and other developmental stages and creates an object
relationship that conditions their emotional and sexual self to depend
upon these objects and fantasies to meet their emotional and sexual needs
hundreds of times before having sex with a real person.
If you think sexual addiction is a problem you might
have, you can order "Out of the Shadows", available from our
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