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Communication is the Key to Your Marriage! Daily Tip for 9/12 What is it to "rehearse" our communication? It means to map out or plan our responses based on what we think the other person is going to say. For Instance, "If she ask me about that....I will respond with this", and "when she responds with this, ...I will answer with that" We did this as kids, when we knew our parents where going to drill us over something we did. We planned just how we were going to answer their questions so as to give us the advantage ( and possible miss the spanking). This might work except that the entire premise of rehearsing is based on fantasy. We think our wife is going to ask us a question, or speak to us about something in a particular manner, and so we plan our responses based on that belief. Of course we might know our wife to the point where we can guess what they might say or how they might respond. But as they grow and change with time we might miss that their communication towards us might change. Therefore a continued problem she is having with something might never see the light of day as she says to herself, "It is no use talking to him about it....he just doesn't understand...what is the use!" When people go to a movie they know they are entering a fantasy. They know the lines are rehearsed. We can make our wives feel the same way. If we don't think she would notice we have rehearsed our lines we might be engaging in our own fantasy. Question: "See if today you are rehearsing your lines, or are you listening."

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