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Communication is the Key to Your Marriage!

Daily Tip for 9/11

Listening is an art. It is more than just hearing. When a person communicates verbally to you they are saying more than just words, they are speaking from their being through the channel of their speech. No one has perfected their communication to others to the point where everyone understands everything they are saying. There is bound to be misunderstandings in some cases.

Yet most of the understanding comes not so much from what people say, but from what people hear. To effectively listen you have to realize that by time and experience we have all developed blocks to effective listening.

Some of these blocks are mind reading, rehearsing, filtering, judging, daydreaming, advising and sparing.

Today we will focus on mind reading, or when you try to figure out what someone is saying based on your assumptions or "what you think they are saying".

For instance you read into what someone is saying more than what is actually there. Of course this makes you miss what is really being said, ie; what they really WERE saying. The point is that you are more focused on yourself than on the other and what they trying to communicate to you.

You can avoid this block by asking questions like, "What I hear you saying is...." Therefore you ask the speaker to clarify their words further. So if the message isn't clear on the first round, you get a clarification.

Today: "See if YOU are mind reading"

 

Other blocks: Judging | Filtering | Mind Reading | Rehearsing

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