LISTEN!

One of the most important things we can do in any relationship is listen. Since we are in the age of acronyms here is what that can mean for us husbands!

L= Learn how to listen to your wife, Learn what her needs are.  Learn "wife-speak".

I = Intuition.  Intuition is nothing more than feelings.  Many times you have a feeling of what you should do and should say to your wife. Sometimes it's also  a good ideal to go with those feeling.  Go ahead and be anticipatory.

S = Safety and Security.  Remember those two needs of your wife. Most of the time when she is upset, or sad,  it is because one or both have been threatened.  But just don't know about them, learn what those things are that you can do that make her feel safe and secure.

T = Thoughtfulness. With all you have to think about all day long you would be surprise how many times a day you think of her. Coming home with flowers shouldn't be just because you messed up and want to get forgiven. They should come because you thought of her.  Make thinking of her a habit as natural as breathing.

E = Evaluation.  Relationships take work.  If you're "working it" its a good idea from time to time to evaluate your progress.  Remember feedback. The best one to ask is your wife.  Ask her how your doing, or better yet what more can you do.

N = Negotiation. Being caring, thoughtful and loving doesn't mean your needs go by the wayside.  That would just make you resentful.  When your needs conflict with hers negotiate a compromise. Compromise is "meeting halfway".  That way nobody is left out.

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