Pleasing your wife
After 28 years of marriage, more than half of that in the sickness rather than the heath, I learned a few things that please my wife. Breaking them down to the lowest common factor it comes to this.
"Exclusiveness". In the Husbands Love your Wife series I wrote:
"Your wife's greatest need of you is that you make her the number one attraction of your life. She needs to know that you worship the ground she walks on, that above all others, she is the one for you. In short, a continual courtship. Now don't take that beyond what I said. Of course you have many other interests and other things to do. But if you really want to get her attention you are going to have to make her at the pinnacle of them all."
Now this is much more than just "showing intrest", you have to BE interested. It's not easy because as I outline in HLYW men and women think different. What normally interests a woman doesn't necessarily interest a man. However with practice you can make it work. My wife is Korean and as much as she has learned english and I Korean, we still have many gaps in our attempts to communicate. Nevertheless we both committed to making an effort to learn what makes each other "tick".
If you do this you will find it to be fun and an additional bonus it will keep the marriage fresh. I'm constantly learning new things about Yon even after three decades of living with her and when I do it's like we met all over again. Give it a try. You might THINK you know everything about her, but I'll bet you don't and if you really love her you'll want to find out